Birthday Celebration

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Hello. [00:00:01] Speaker B: Welcome back. [00:00:03] Speaker A: Nice to see you. [00:00:04] Speaker B: Nice to see you as well, bro. [00:00:07] Speaker A: I'm so tired. [00:00:09] Speaker B: Yeah, same. [00:00:11] Speaker A: It feels like the most Monday ist Tuesday. [00:00:15] Speaker B: It's been like that all day, and I've had multiple people that I've talked to say the exact same thing. [00:00:22] Speaker A: I don't know what about it has made it. [00:00:24] Speaker B: Hey, this way. [00:00:26] Speaker A: I'm just not feeling it today. [00:00:29] Speaker B: I'm over this week. I was totally like, I wish it was Friday. [00:00:33] Speaker A: All day, same fucking same. Except for I have to clean houses on Friday. That doesn't sound like fun. If I could just have a whole day to sleep, I'd be down. [00:00:50] Speaker B: Yeah, I totally need that. [00:00:55] Speaker A: Scarlett, what are you doing? Sorry. Cat likes to interrupt. All right, I guess let's get started. [00:01:04] Speaker B: Okay. Jump into this. [00:01:07] Speaker A: Okay. We have two kids birthdays coming up. Each of us have a kid. [00:01:13] Speaker B: Yes. Correct. [00:01:15] Speaker A: Each of us have three kids, but each of us have a kid whose birthday is very soon. [00:01:19] Speaker B: Yes. [00:01:20] Speaker A: How do you celebrate your kids birthdays? Like, what do you do for your kids birthdays? [00:01:24] Speaker B: We used to do birthday parties and invite the whole family and do all. The whole deal. And a couple of years ago, we got tired of it, so we decided a couple of years ago that we wanted to go on trips. So we take the kids wherever they want to do. They get to do pretty much whatever they want to do for their birthday trip. So, like, the two little ones are a little too young to decide exactly what they want to do. So we go to a hotel, and the kids get to swim, and we'll go shopping, let them pick out a few things and order in whatever food they want to the hotel so that they can swim as much as possible. And that's what we do. And usually the day before or a couple days before, we'll do, like, a cake at Stephen's mom and dad's so that they can watch the kids blow out the candles. Really, all we do, it's very small. Like, we don't hardly do anything. Remington is old enough. He can. So, like, for his birthday last year, he wanted to take a friend to an escape room. So he picked one friend, and Stephen took both of the kids or both of Remington and his friend over to an escape room, and that was his birthday trip. [00:02:39] Speaker A: There you go. We do something very. It's just a tad bit different. So, with our kids. Yes. We used to do, like, the big shebang, the big birthday parties. Guess who got tired of it? Me. I'm the one that's got to clean the house. I'm the one that's got to plan for the party. I'm the one that's got to do all of these things that I just don't want to do. [00:03:04] Speaker B: Right. Okay. And it wears you out, and it costs just as much money. [00:03:10] Speaker A: There are maybe two people that come to my kids birthday parties that we don't see on the regular, so, like, there was no point. [00:03:19] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:03:20] Speaker A: What we do for our kids'birthdays is for their actual birthday. Whatever day it falls on doesn't matter. For their actual we. The night before me and Daniel decorate the house, we get, like, little. I say little. These balloons are fucking huge. So the balloons with their age, and we blow up a bunch of balloons, and we have little streamers all over the house, and we get them birthday presents that are on the table from us. And so they wake up and they have this super excited. Yeah. This super exciting. And that's something my kids have looked forward to, is doing that we just kind of do whatever they want that day. Like, whatever they want to eat, we'll go eat, do kind of whatever on their actual birthday. Everything's at home. Unless it just happens to fall on that weekend. And then a day during the week, we'll decide to do, like, this big, extravagant thing. But then that night, usually we have friends over, and we don't do a birthday cake or anything like that with our friends over. We just have our friends over, and it's just, like, they come say happy birthday to our kids and no presents or anything. It's just the love of the people in our life for our kids. [00:04:34] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:04:35] Speaker A: And then on the weekend following their birthday, we do a night away or a day. It's very child dependent. [00:04:50] Speaker B: Right. [00:04:50] Speaker A: So, for Harper, we started with Harper this year. I don't really know why we started with Harper. I think it was just kind of. Her birthday's next. This is what we're doing. [00:05:02] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:05:03] Speaker A: So for Harper's birthday, Hazel hasn't got to have this yet. So I'm super excited because her birthday is the one that's coming up. But Harper decided that she wanted to go stay in a hotel, and that she wanted to go to Tiger bounce, and she wanted to go shopping and wanted to go eat out. And that's what we did. So we did all of that, and it was so much fun. It was just one night. We left first thing that Saturday morning and didn't get home till that Sunday evening. We just had a blast. It was so much fun. We took her to this. Wasn't on her list. But we thought it would be really fun. We took her to bonkers, and then she got a build a bear. And it was so much fun. For Hadley, we did something a little different. We let her have the choice. We told her, we can go somewhere. We can do the same thing that your sister did, or you can have your friends come over. However many friends you want. You all can do whatever you want. [00:05:59] Speaker B: Whenever they get a little older like that, Piper and Morris. Piper always wants to go stay at a hotel. And Morse will do whatever sissy wants to, like. And we take all the kids. And we, like, we take all the kids. So for Morris's birthday, we're leaving Saturday morning. And so Friday we're going to do the cake at Sadie and Larry Dean's house. And then Saturday is his actual birthday. So we're going to leave that morning. We're just going to, like. I think we decided on Quincy because they've got decent hotels over there and there's bonkers or Scotty's fun spot or something like that. [00:06:36] Speaker A: Yeah, there's. Yeah. [00:06:38] Speaker B: So we're going to go to that, and then we're going to do a little shop and let him pick out some stuff he wants. Like, if he picks out a toy, that's fine. And we only do, like, one gift for his actual birthday. So on Friday, whenever we do the cake, he'll get to open one present. [00:06:55] Speaker A: Okay. [00:06:55] Speaker B: And it'll be kind of a bigger present, but not necessarily like, it doesn't have to be just like one. So I think this year, he's been very into dinosaurs lately, and he loves those dino digs. So I found a twelve pack of them or twelve or 15 pack of the eggs. And then they have cards that come with them. So once you dig the dinosaur out, it's got a card and it teaches you about it. So it tells you what type of dinosaur it is. Like, what they eat, that kind of stuff. So that's what he'll get with his cake on Friday. And then Saturday morning, we'll all load up. Sadie and Larry Dean will take one vehicle. We'll take one vehicle, go to Quincy. We'll go eat at somewhere fun for he. He'll be three. So he can't really be like, I want to go to know, like, remy would decide, right? And the whole, like, he gets to make all the decisions. Like, Morris, do you want to go swimming? Yeah, you want to go swimming? Let's go swimming. Morris, do you want to order pizza? Or this option to be delivered into the. Like he'll get to decide everything. And it is not like we had issues with Remington on Piper's birthday trip. And he was like, well, I don't want this to eat. And I'm like, well, this is what Piper wants. This is her birthday. Like, if you don't want to go swimming with us, you can stay up in the hotel room. If you don't want to eat this, I brought snacks. You can eat that if you don't want to drink this drink, which we don't do the drink thing. But if you want what we've got, there's a vending machine down the know. So it's all about that kid. And with Piper and Morris, I want the other two kids. So if it's for Morris, I want the other two kids there so that they can feel like everything's about them, right? And, like, Remy does usually do pretty good. Like, okay, this is your trip. What are we like, this is your trip. It's all about you. You get to. He does. He usually does pretty good on the last one for like, a little bit. I think he was getting. Yeah, for just a little bit. He was a little like, well, I don't want to do this. And I'm like, well, this isn't your trip. This is Piper's. Piper, what do you want to. [00:09:10] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:09:11] Speaker B: So they really like to be in control, and they are in control of everyone that's there. [00:09:17] Speaker A: I think the thing about ours is we don't get a lot of one. [00:09:20] Speaker B: On one time with our kids, right. [00:09:21] Speaker A: So we decided that it's their birthday, we want to spend time with them. We do a thing as a family together, and then we're going to do things separately, just mom and dad. [00:09:30] Speaker B: Right. [00:09:31] Speaker A: And so I think that's really nice, and I think that's helped us a lot. But with Hadley's, we gave her the choice of what she wanted to do, because we're not taking a bunch of kids to go do something. But if you want to have a bunch of kids over, we'll order pizza. I'll go buy all the snacks, all the. Everything that you want. We can rent movies. You can do whatever you want. And so that's what we did. She had a bunch of her little girlfriends come over and, oh, my goodness, the amount of laughter that I heard, they thought it was the coolest thing. [00:10:00] Speaker B: And you had the two little ones go and stay the night somewhere else, right? [00:10:04] Speaker A: Yeah, the little ones were. Yeah. [00:10:05] Speaker B: So they weren't even here. It was just all big girl time. All Hadley. [00:10:09] Speaker A: Yeah. And that's why we do it the way that we do. Like, our kids need to feel like they are. Not that I'm saying that the way that you're doing it, even though that's kind of the way that I'm coming off. I don't mean it that way, but our kids are the main deal. So for Hazel's birthday, we've kind of been going back and forth on what we want to do. Because she is only three. [00:10:31] Speaker B: Yeah. And it's hard why we do it a little different. Like, Harper is old enough to. [00:10:38] Speaker A: Harper knows what she wants. Yeah, she does. [00:10:40] Speaker B: And, like Piper, we could start doing that. She'll be five this year, so that might be something we start with. But her and morse are so close in age, and they're so close as brother and sister. That's why we don't want to pull them apart for that, because that is a full night that they don't get to spend together. [00:10:58] Speaker A: Right. [00:10:59] Speaker B: And they sleep together in the same bed. They snuggle. They are attached at the hip. They may be fighting when they're attached at the hip, but they are attached at the hip. So that's why right now, we are doing it as a group. And then they kind of get to be to the boss of everyone. And I like that. I like that they get to learn, like, hey, my birthday is special. This is about me. And I'm not trying to create them, to raise them, to think that their birthday should always be about them. Because it's like, sometimes they don't get to decide. Sometimes it's like, okay, well, we have to drive. I know you don't want to ride in your car seat. I don't know. [00:11:36] Speaker A: You don't want to be buckled in. [00:11:37] Speaker B: But we have to. To be able to get you this. So I'm not trying to create a brat by letting them be the boss of the family. [00:11:47] Speaker A: No, but birthdays are important. [00:11:49] Speaker B: They are. They are very important. And maybe when hyper gets to this next birthday, she'll be ready to decide that she wants to do something on her own. And maybe she won't. Like Remy decided this year that he wanted to do something on his own, and Stephen took him to do his own thing. And whenever they're ready for their own time, that is fine. But right now, I'm not ready for it. [00:12:14] Speaker A: Well, for Hazel. She is also very into dinosaurs, which she's been into dinosaurs for a very long time. This girl loves dinosaurs. I'm pretty sure she could tell me every fucking dinosaur. Every fucking one of them, yeah. Anyways, so we got her a bunch of dinosaur stuff for her birthday. I'm super excited because I find it so cute. She'll see a dinosaur and be able. She'll just be like, it's this dinosaur. [00:12:45] Speaker B: And I'm like, I don't know. [00:12:48] Speaker A: You don't know? [00:12:48] Speaker B: But it sounds great. [00:12:51] Speaker A: So we've kind of thrown it around, like going to St. Louis and going to the zoo, because they have their little dinosaur attraction. She loved it last time that we were there, so we talked about doing that. [00:13:02] Speaker B: And that may be something that is weather permitting, because it may be a little too chilly. [00:13:07] Speaker A: We got coats. [00:13:10] Speaker B: You're braver than I am. [00:13:12] Speaker A: Shit. If that is something that she would just absolutely love, we'll do it. [00:13:19] Speaker B: Have you seen the really cute little girl dinosaur stuff? Like, I see it at Dollar general. [00:13:23] Speaker A: Bought some. [00:13:24] Speaker B: Is that where you got it? They are so stinking cute. And I'm like, piper would think that they were cool. I don't know if she would absolutely love them, but I could do a little boy area and a girl area in their room. It would be so cute. [00:13:35] Speaker A: There's a super fucking cute little pink dinosaur that's got, like, a rainbow kind of on it. I've seen it, but it says boy on it. It said a brave girl. It says brave boy. I'm not going to buy it for her. But I thought it was so cute. [00:13:53] Speaker B: It's really cute. I'm like, oh, my God, you paint over it. [00:13:58] Speaker A: Just paint. Just a little white it out. [00:14:01] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:14:04] Speaker A: So that's kind of what we do for our kids'birthdays. And our other two. Either we have somebody come stay here with them, or they go spend the night somewhere. Just that one night. And then we go and do the stuff with the birthday. [00:14:22] Speaker B: It. Love it. [00:14:24] Speaker A: I'm super excited for Hazel's birthday. This is her first time doing it. And yeah, she's only three, but it's just going to be so exciting for her. Yeah, she's going to love it. [00:14:33] Speaker B: Piper loved it. And we did it for Morris last year, too, and he was only two, but still he thought it was cool. Like, we went to hotels. [00:14:42] Speaker A: So him and Hazel bonked heads. [00:14:45] Speaker B: Yeah, that was. [00:14:47] Speaker A: Oh, I still hear that sound. [00:14:50] Speaker B: It's a sound that you can't unhear when two little bitty heads hit, collide. [00:14:55] Speaker A: They were running so fucking fast. [00:14:58] Speaker B: It was bad. [00:14:59] Speaker A: It was bad, but they're fine. Yeah, maybe you lost a few brain cells, but it's fine. [00:15:03] Speaker B: We won't know they'll gain them back. Yeah. [00:15:08] Speaker A: All right. So I feel like I need to discuss this because, frankly, it pisses me off. You'll realize there was something that happened. I don't know when. I think it was before school got out for Christmas break that I just found out about. I'm pretty sure the majority of people who were there just found out about that happened on one of our buses. [00:15:42] Speaker B: Okay. [00:15:43] Speaker A: And I am furious if this is 1000% true. The fact that at least maybe the parents on said bus knew about it, but the fact that the whole school didn't know about it, I feel like is an issue, and maybe I'm just blowing it out of proportion, but I am very frustrated. I'm glad that it didn't happen on my bus. [00:16:07] Speaker B: Right. [00:16:08] Speaker A: But to say that it could have happened or could be happening on my bus, and nobody's fucking talking about it. Let me just preface by saying there was a. I don't know how old. High school child. Child. I'm saying very loosely. So I really don't know how old this kid was. Male, showing very inappropriate videos and pictures of adults to children, to little children on the bus. Was it taken care of? From what I heard, it was. I don't know. It hasn't even been spoken about that I am aware of. I never got an email, never seen anything about it. So it does just make me feel so angry at our school district for not talking about it, because although it didn't happen to my kids, it happened to somebody's fucking kids. [00:17:23] Speaker B: Yes. [00:17:24] Speaker A: And that's something that should have been taken seriously. Granted, there have been things that the school hasn't told us before that I'm mad about, too. But the fact that that happened on the bus, and I'm not blaming the bus driver because the bus driver can't. [00:17:39] Speaker B: See everything 24/7 but I'm pretty sure that's why there's cameras on all the buses. [00:17:45] Speaker A: Supposed to be. I don't know that there is or not. I don't know. What I do know is that I'm very upset with the school district for not addressing it to parents. To all parents. [00:17:57] Speaker B: Well, addressing the situation and then notifying all the parents. Right. And I feel like that's not just a bus thing. I feel like that is like whenever your child rides the bus, I feel like some of the consequences should come into your school. [00:18:11] Speaker A: Well, what I heard was the kid got either suspended or expelled. [00:18:16] Speaker B: Okay. [00:18:17] Speaker A: That's what I heard. I don't know. Granted, this is from other parents. [00:18:21] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:18:22] Speaker A: This was never from anybody at the school. Not a teacher at the school, not any of the administration from the school. This is another parent who I heard it from. Granted, I don't know if I have all the facts. What I do know is that I'm very upset that the school district didn't notify the parents even if my kids didn't ride that bus. I feel like that is something that you don't even have to say. All you have to do is say there was an incident on the bus. [00:18:49] Speaker B: There was an incident on the bus and the children that it involved were taken care of properly and the child that was in the wrong was properly expelled or suspended. [00:19:01] Speaker A: Right. There you go. That's it. The fact that I had to hear it from another parent and I didn't hear it from administration, I think is what makes me the most mad. So what I did was I took my kids off the bus because I don't. [00:19:14] Speaker B: Kids have had issues on their bus too. Not to this extent. [00:19:17] Speaker A: Not to this extent. There's just like kids that say nasty words on the bus. Okay, whatever. Not my kids, somebody else's. That's not any of my business. I love our bus driver. I think he is a great bus driver, but I also know he can't have eyes everywhere. And I feel like my kids are too young to be on the bus when you don't know what's going on. If I had to make my kids ride the bus, then I'd have to. There's no way around it, right? [00:19:50] Speaker B: I'm in a situation that you are able to pull them off. Absolutely. [00:19:54] Speaker A: I'm very fortunate enough. And it was a convenience to have them ride the bus. [00:19:58] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:19:58] Speaker A: It wasn't because I had to have them ride the bus. It was a convenience. So I took my kids off the bus and I didn't even hear about this until the kids had went back to school. And they didn't even ride the bus yet after being back to school this semester because of the road conditions, right. So I had to take them anyways. And when I was taking them, it wasn't a big deal for me to get up five minutes earlier and take them to school, right. And pick them up from school. Like it really wasn't a big deal. So I've been picking them up and dropping them off. Is it a pain in the ass sometimes? [00:20:35] Speaker B: Sure. [00:20:37] Speaker A: It's a pain in the ass coming home for an hour just to go back to town, right. That's the only pain in the ass that there really is in the mornings. Literally, it's just another stop I have to make. Does not make a bit of difference in my schedule, but I have had issues with the school. There have been things that have come up since. Not with my kids, but with kids that I know. This is an administration. Just a shitty parent with an asshole kid that called my kid trans because she called him annoying. [00:21:27] Speaker B: Come on now, that's ridiculous. [00:21:29] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:21:29] Speaker B: See, how come that's okay? How come a kid can call another kid trans, but as soon as you call one of the trans kids or gay kids or whatever, a name, your kid gets in trouble or you get in trouble? How come it's okay for kids that are not trans, gay, bi, that kind of stuff to call other kids that are not those names? [00:21:56] Speaker A: I don't know. Have no idea. Heard it. Like, the crazy thing is, heard it from my kid and another kid still have yet to hear anything from a teacher. [00:22:07] Speaker B: Did it happen during class? [00:22:09] Speaker A: Happened during class. Happened during class. This teacher, though, is kind of notorious for just letting things just, like, slide. Yeah. I mean, even the worst offenses slide. It's just there are some amazing teachers at our school. There are some really just fucking amazing teachers at our school that I love. [00:22:32] Speaker B: Many crappy ones, though. [00:22:34] Speaker A: I don't know that they're necessarily crappy teachers. I do think that administration could use some work, definitely. But there are some genuine fucking teachers out there that my kids have came across, some really fucking good teachers at our school. So no shit to the teachers because I genuinely thank them for what they fucking do. It's the administration that I have an issue with, and not even all the administration, just, like, certain parts of it. Anyways, I'm done getting pissed off about that. Let's go on to something different. [00:23:18] Speaker B: Okay. [00:23:21] Speaker A: All right. [00:23:22] Speaker B: So for our weekly listeners, last week we gave you a challenge. The week before we gave you some homework, and last week we gave you a challenge to see if you could start limiting your child's screen time and your screen time. Did you do it? [00:23:41] Speaker A: I want to know from you first. Did you do it? [00:23:43] Speaker B: I did. [00:23:44] Speaker A: Did you? [00:23:45] Speaker B: Yes. 30 minutes a night. So we are at 30 minutes a night. I didn't start right away. I took a couple of days because things got a little wild. But after going three weeks without the kids sleeping properly, I really started hard into it. So we get home from work and I do a little cleaning. The kids get their snack. We watch a little bit of a movie together on the big tv, and then I'm like, okay, let's start a craft or do an activity or play a game. So we play a game, do that kind of stuff, start cooking supper. I let Piper make cookies last night, and then she helped with supper the other nights, and it went pretty good. I let her have 30 minutes between supper and bath, or let them, like, he watches what she watches. So let them have about 30 ish minutes between supper and bath. They went to bed super good last night. Like, it was later than I would have liked to them to go to bed, but they're night owls, just like I am. So I'm like, whatever. Did pretty good. [00:25:00] Speaker A: Nice. [00:25:00] Speaker B: Very proud of them. Very proud of myself. I did not limit my screen time at work, because whenever I have downtime at work, I'm like, scroll, scroll, scroll. But at home did a lot better. [00:25:13] Speaker A: Nice. [00:25:14] Speaker B: How did it go at your house? [00:25:16] Speaker A: It didn't. [00:25:17] Speaker B: It didn't? [00:25:17] Speaker A: No. First off, kind of forgot about it. [00:25:22] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:25:23] Speaker A: If I'm going to be honest, I forget every time we record what the fuck we recorded about. So unless I said it in my phone, not going to remember. Right. My kids are feral. [00:25:36] Speaker B: Fair enough. Mine are, too. [00:25:39] Speaker A: Which, granted, we do not let them have their tablets at bed. Well, let me backtrack. We don't let the two little ones have their tablets at bed. Hadley's a whole different story for another fucking day. [00:25:52] Speaker B: Right? [00:25:53] Speaker A: Anyways, we don't let the little two, because we have a tv on our bedroom, they sleep with us. I just turn something on our tv, right? And that's how we go to bed. [00:26:03] Speaker B: Well, we watch a movie to go to bed. And I don't consider all screen time bad. Like, the tablets and the iPads and stuff that they have an inch away from their face and they're watching, like, my kids watch YouTube kids and watch all the stupid videos, like, the kids playing, and I'm like, why are you guys watching this? Or, like, the little animated characters bouncing around? That is what I limited. Like, we still watch tv before bed. Like, we put on a movie and we all laid down and watched it together and then went to bed. So I don't really consider the tv screen time. Yes, I know it is. I'm not stupid. But we limited it. But didn't put it all the way back to 30 minutes. Like, we did the iPad. I cut the iPad down to 30 minutes, right? And then, like, the tv. Like, we had the tv on before bed. [00:26:59] Speaker A: My kids, I do have to say, like, my kids, my two little kids, I definitely need to rephrase that. Because of an incident that happened yesterday. My little kids are very good at putting their tablets down. Not even caring about them. They're so good at. It's, it doesn't even matter what's going. Like, they are totally fine with just putting their tablets down. I'm pretty sure Hazel hasn't watched her tablet in a week. [00:27:28] Speaker B: Right? [00:27:29] Speaker A: She doesn't care about it. [00:27:30] Speaker B: Doesn't care about it. [00:27:31] Speaker A: Yeah. Hazel does not care about it. Harper. It's whenever she starts getting hired, she wants to watch something. Or especially like whenever Hadley is watching something, she wants to watch. [00:27:44] Speaker B: Right. [00:27:45] Speaker A: So like, I totally get it. Other times all they want to do is play. They want to play barbies. They're still in that spot where they're so creative. So I don't really have to limit their screen time. The only time I have to limit it is at bedtime because they want to watch it all night. [00:28:02] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:28:03] Speaker A: And I've got to be like, nah, sorry, we can't do that. My screen time is definitely the worst. But we have an issue when it comes to Hadley. We're going to have to start definitely limiting hers because yesterday when she got home from school, we told know, hey, Meema's coming over to watch you guys because me and Daniel had to do our taxes. And so give me 1 second pause. Okay, we're back. Anyways, so yesterday we told her, hey, we've got to clean up the house because mimos coming over. Like, our House wasn't bad at all. [00:28:43] Speaker B: Right? [00:28:43] Speaker A: But Harper has a living room. That's her chore. Hadley has the other two rooms, which they had just cleaned the night before. There were maybe six toys on the ground and four pairs of clothes. Like, not anything crazy. [00:28:56] Speaker B: Five minutes worth of picking up. Not even cleaning. Picking up. [00:29:00] Speaker A: Right? And then I did the. So, like, it should have all been done relatively fast. The kitchen was definitely the worst. And then the living room was also really bad. But Hadley, she had thrown a fit about having to pick up. And I was, you know, we can just get this done really fast and then you can do your homework. Like, it's not that big of a deal. Well, then it just blew up. And then she's at that stage where she should be 16. I really think her period is getting ready to start because she is just so emotional. And I'm like, bro, you need to calm down. Anyways, so that was just a whole disaster yesterday. Anyways, we got it all taken care of. She went in her room to start picking up. So she asked me, she was like, can I listen to my tablet while I clean? Sure. [00:29:59] Speaker B: That's fine. [00:30:00] Speaker A: I listen to my phone. I listen to this stuff on my phone. Go ahead, go for it. It had been 20 minutes, and that's when I usually do my rounds, check on how everybody's doing. Harper's in there just trucking away. She's usually the one that's like, mom, I don't want to clean. [00:30:16] Speaker B: Or picks, like, one toy up and drag it around. That's what she. [00:30:19] Speaker A: Oh, my gosh, she did so good yesterday. I did not have to tell her to pick up a single thing. She just did it. I don't know what she's going through right now. It was great. Maybe it was just because me mama was coming over. I don't. She. The living room looked so fucking good when she got done. [00:30:34] Speaker B: Sweet girl. [00:30:36] Speaker A: But I walked in, and that never. Like, usually I'm always on her ass. Like, Harper, you have to pick up. Come on now. [00:30:42] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:30:43] Speaker A: Walked into Hadley's room. She's sitting there watching her tablet. And I was like, hadley, may it. She's like, I'm cleaning. I'm cleaning. I'm like, no, you're not. I just watched you watch your tablet. It's time to turn it off. Then she starts crying. I don't want to turn it off. I can clean and do it. I was like, clearly, you can't turn it off. Whenever you get done. You can watch it again. Absolutely not. We're not doing this. So she turns it off. She's all kinds of fucking pissed off at me. And I'm like, you'll be fine. You'll get happy in the same pants you got mad in. Okay. [00:31:13] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:31:14] Speaker A: So she gets back to cleaning. When I tell you this is a ten minute job, I mean, if she actually just looked at the stuff that was on the floor and just picked it up, it'd be done. Yeah, okay. [00:31:30] Speaker B: Like, more like a five minute job. [00:31:32] Speaker A: Literally. [00:31:33] Speaker B: Pick up, pick up, pick up. Done. [00:31:35] Speaker A: Literally. So I get back to doing my shit, and Harper's still trucking along in the living room. Hazel's just kind of running around like a banshee. [00:31:46] Speaker B: Yeah, they do that, those two little ones? [00:31:48] Speaker A: Yeah. And Harper comes to me, and she's like, mom, I'm done with the living room. I'm like, okay, sis. I'll come check on it in a minute. I get stuck talking to Daniel. It is now. We get home at around 330 ish. And so as soon as we got home, we started this 430. I walked into that room, and she is sitting there playing. Hasn't picked up a single thing. I looked at her and she looked at me, and she knew that she fucked up. And I said, hatha may, give me your tablet, because she wasn't playing on her tablet, but her tablet was still in her room, plugged in. I was like, give it to me. It's mine now. So I took it, and she was pissed. [00:32:46] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:32:46] Speaker A: And I was like, all you had to do is pick up ten minutes. [00:32:50] Speaker B: Worth of work, but now you lost your tablet for who knows how long, right? [00:32:53] Speaker A: I was like, get your ass in there and pick up. And I was just so frustrated. And then she finally came and told me that she was done five minutes later, and I was like, you better go check, because your dad's going to go in there and he's going to check, because I'm not going back in there because I already know I'm going to be mad if I go in there, right? And Daniel goes in there, and I was like, you better make sure this all picked up because your dad's going to be mad. And he goes in there and he's like, how the. Man? Are you kidding me, man? [00:33:34] Speaker B: I wish we could explain in the proper ways, because kids don't. [00:33:39] Speaker A: I wish I could shake her, and it just wiggles something around in her brain, right? [00:33:45] Speaker B: And it'd be like, oh, I get it now. [00:33:46] Speaker A: Oh, got it. [00:33:47] Speaker B: But I wish. Kids don't understand stuff the same way we. Right? Their brains are still maturing. They're still maturing. Their brains are still growing to understand, and different things are happening in their brains. I get it. I wish there was a way to understand exactly how we needed to explain. [00:34:07] Speaker A: It to them, right? [00:34:09] Speaker B: So we could be like, whatever age, whatever kid, we could just know what ages the brain matures and grows into this so that they understand this and this and this. Is that a thing? [00:34:26] Speaker A: I doubt it. [00:34:27] Speaker B: I wish it was, because it needs to be a thing, because I am the very first generation of gentle parenting in my family, and Stephen and I's family, so Stephen's side and my side. And sometimes I just want to grab them and be like, I don't want to spank you, please just pick up. [00:34:51] Speaker A: I literally do that to my kids. I'm like, do you want mom to yell? Mom doesn't want to yell. [00:34:56] Speaker B: Stop it. And I hate yelling. I do. It hurts me. So the other morning, piper, I guess it was Monday morning, Piper was just not doing good in the morning. Like, she was just whiny and crying, and I don't know what was going on with her and I was like, your shoes on? I went and grabbed my purse, grabbed my stuff, like, got my jacket on, my shoes on. And I was like, okay, babe, you got your shoes on. I don't want to wear these shoes. And I'm like, okay, well, what shoes do you want? Because I told you ten minutes ago to get your boots on so we could walk out the door, and you didn't. So she found a pair of shoes she wanted, and I'm trying to help her get these shoes on. And she's not, like, not helping, not pushing her foot in. She's just limp, just sitting there, limp. And I'm like, okay, we're not doing that. I'll just grab your boots, and you can put them on in the truck. And she's like, can I take my purse? Can I take my sippy cup? I want to take this into the truck. And she's like, whining as she says it. And I'm like, no, if you would have listened ten minutes ago, you could have like, we are going to be late if we don't get out the door five minutes ago. Yeah, let's go. And I did kind of yell and got out the door, and I was like, get in the truck. We are leaving right now. I put her boots on the floor of the truck, and I was like, you better have these boots on. Whenever we pull into daycare and she's sitting back there crying and crying, Morris is in the other seat, and he was fine, perfectly content. I pull out of the driveway, and I'm like, piper, please get your boots on, baby. Like, please get your boots, Morris. Piper says something, and Morris is like, I don't want to go to daycare. And I lost it. And I yelled, yelled and yelled and yelled. And I was like, if you guys would have just listened and got going and got your shoes on and just listened to me and got up, and I just went on and on. Piper was so upset when I dropped her off at daycare. I get to work, I sit down, drink my coffee, I calm down, and it's like 09:00 by, like, get to work at like, it's 09:00 and I'm like, what am I going to. Like, these kids are acting terrible lately, Piper especially. And I'm like, what am I going to do? I'm going to lose my mind. I don't want to. And then I was like, she went to daycare, very upset, and that upsets me. And I was like, I'm a terrible mom. I yelled at her. I got mad at her first thing in the morning like she hadn't been up 20 minutes, 2030 minutes. I hate doing that. I hate yelling at them first thing in the morning because it messes up their whole day, makes them not have a good whole day. [00:37:54] Speaker A: And let me tell you, they're going to forget about it. You think about it way more than they do. [00:38:00] Speaker B: I did not forget about it. So she gets home that night from daycare. We have a good night. And a little bit before bed, she goes, mom, I'm going to set my purse right here so I can take it in the morning and so you don't have to yell at us and so that we don't have to be late. And I was like, yes, sweetie, please put your purse right there. We will take it tomorrow. Thank you. Broke my heart so you don't have to yell at us so that you don't have to be late tomorrow. Okay? Thank you for breaking my heart right before bed. Woke her up this morning, I was like, baby, we got to get up. And I was plenty early this morning. Yesterday or Monday morning, I was running right on time until that whole fiasco. And then today, Tuesday morning, had plenty of time. And she goes, mom, can I still take my purple purse? Yes, baby. Yes, you can. [00:39:00] Speaker A: My kids, at this point, know that mom's a yeller. That mom yells. It's not like I'm constantly just yelling at them, and that's how I talk to them, because it's not. But if mom asks you to do something and then she asks you again, and then she has to ask you one more time, mom's going to yell. [00:39:23] Speaker B: You get. [00:39:23] Speaker A: Mom's going to fucking yell. [00:39:25] Speaker B: Three chances. And by the third time of me telling or asking you to do it, I might yell. I may not. But if I have to say anything again, it's just a screaming match. [00:39:37] Speaker A: This is the only time that I've ever had to do it. I straight up screamed at my kids the other day, and I felt awful, but I was like, you do not listen to me unless I am screaming my head off at you. And it was all over. Cleaning their room, I was just like, hey, can you guys please pick up your room? If you both do it, it won't take that long. But I don't want to see you. I don't want to hear you until it's done. Just please get it done. It should not take very long. Just both get it done. The amount of times that I saw both of them come trying to tattle it, I. And when I walk by the room, nothing. That's not true. Not nothing. But, like, one of my biggest pet peeves is to mind your own business. When it comes to, like, if you're supposed to be doing something and somebody else is doing something, worry about you. Do not worry about anybody else. What they are doing. And the amount of times that Hadley, and it's not even Hadley come tell me that Harper's doing something she's not supposed to be, you know, they're supposed to be picking up their rooms. And instead of picking up their room, Harper picked up a toy. And she comes to tell me, and I'm like, bro, worry about you. Because trust me, I'm going to come in there and I'm going to see what it looks like, and I'm going to look at her and she's going to be in trouble. But here you are getting yourself into trouble by not just your business. Or if I walk by their room and they're staring out of it, seeing what I'm trying to do, right? Where to God, you don't stop worrying about what I'm doing and worry about what you're supposed to be doing. Mom's going to flip a lid. And it was the first time I've ever yelled at my kids like that. A lot of times I'm just like, will you all knock it off? That's usually like, the extent I don't scream at my kid. But like, the other day, I was like, why can't you guys just listen to what I do? Why do you always just want me to yell? I'm on the verge of tears because I'm just so mad that I have to be yelling at them to do the one thing that I asked. There is no need. [00:42:29] Speaker B: And that's what I try to explain to my kids. Like, piper, she gets me. She's my girl. [00:42:35] Speaker A: Hold on, I got to intercept in here. My kids, you look at them wrong, they'll cry. Yeah, okay. You raise your voice just a little bit, they'll cry. They both just stood there and stared at me like this. Like mom's just lost her. [00:42:51] Speaker B: Like, I think I've gotten on to Hadley and Hadley before, and I think all I said was like, hadley, why are you being like. Kind of did a. Like, Hadley, why are you being like this face? And I think she teared up all. [00:43:07] Speaker A: The time, literally, if I genuinely get onto my kids and raise my voice at them just a little bit, they'll cry. But this time, neither one of them, they were so shocked. They were just like mom, frightened. They were like, mom just broke. There's something wrong with her broker. And then guess who fucking cleaned the room? They did. Guess who didn't cry? Neither one of them. [00:43:31] Speaker B: Good. [00:43:31] Speaker A: They're just like, mom has lost her marbles for sure. [00:43:35] Speaker B: She's gone. She's gone for good. Kids these days. [00:43:43] Speaker A: I'm over. Oh, go ahead. [00:43:47] Speaker B: No, go ahead. [00:43:48] Speaker A: And then Hadley had the audacity to tell me that her stomach just randomly hurt today. [00:43:53] Speaker B: Nice. [00:43:54] Speaker A: I'm like, great. So really, either you're getting sick or you're going to start your period. It's one of the two. Because my stomach never just randomly makes my stomach hurt. I'm scared, and I've got a fucking cat in heat. So I love my life. [00:44:12] Speaker B: Oh, man. My stomach hurts for you right now. [00:44:15] Speaker A: It should. I'm over it. [00:44:21] Speaker B: So, on a different topic, you want to know what the kids and I did yesterday? [00:44:25] Speaker A: What did you do? [00:44:26] Speaker B: We did some grounding outside and worked in the garden. [00:44:30] Speaker A: There you go. Since it was so nice out yesterday. [00:44:33] Speaker B: It was so nice. So we get home, take our shoes off in the house, and go outside, and Morris, we get out of the vehicle, and we had talked about on the way home, like, we're going to go outside. And so instead of him going inside taking his shoes off, he just darts to a mud. Fine. Like, that's Morris. So Piper and I go inside, take our shoes off, and we're like, okay. We're going to go outside and walk around barefoot. That's our thing. We take a couple of steps off the porch, and piper's like, my feet are cold. And I'm like, yeah, mine, too. Let's get to the grassy area, see if it's any better. It was not any better. So then she starts getting a little upset, and she's like, mom, my feet are really cold. I was like, okay, mom's going to run inside really fast and get us shoes. Well, I wanted to find, like, shoes that it didn't matter if they got dirty. Not like her good shoes. So I found a pair of crocs for her and some slip on shoes for me. But it took me forever to find the second pair of three different sets of crocs. And so then I run outside after finding it, and she's, like, standing in the driveway, like, mom. And I'm like, I'm coming. I'm coming. Like, I'll be right there. So I get there, put her shoes on. So we did, like, five minutes of grounding yesterday, and that's about it. So then we walk around the garden and she's like, what are we doing out here? And I'm like, I don't know, whatever we want to do. And we pulled up the garden hoses that I left out there from last year and finished pulling the tomato cages and covered up the asparagus beds with some mulch and stuff. And she's like, why are we doing this? I'm like, I don't know. We literally don't have to be doing this, especially right now, but I want to be outside because it's so nice. Okay, mom, we'll stay outside a little bit. Thank you for your permission. Thank you. [00:46:23] Speaker A: Thank you for that. [00:46:24] Speaker B: It was so nice out yesterday. [00:46:26] Speaker A: It was. It was actually really nice out. Granted, I was only outside when I had to be. I didn't want to, but it's really nice when I was out. [00:46:35] Speaker B: I feel you. So nice. I cannot wait for warmer weather because I have so many big plans. [00:46:45] Speaker A: I'm ready for warmer weather so I can open my windows and just let all of winter go. [00:46:53] Speaker B: I opened our windows over the weekend just a little bit. I just cracked the kitchen to get some fresh air in. It was really nice. [00:46:59] Speaker A: Well, Hazel was sick over the. Oh, bro. I don't know. I don't know if know. Just sickness from being around other kids at daycare, which a lot of the kids were sick at daycare this week or what, but I don't know. And then I get nervous because Hazel's not completely updated on her shots. Like, so that shit makes me nervous. [00:47:26] Speaker B: How many is she missing? [00:47:27] Speaker A: Just one. [00:47:28] Speaker B: Oh, she's good. [00:47:29] Speaker A: And so that shit just gets me nervous. [00:47:32] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:47:33] Speaker A: Then I'm like, man, she's good. [00:47:36] Speaker B: You don't have to worry about that. [00:47:38] Speaker A: I know. It just still makes me nervous. I get so. Which I'm going to have to get her shots before she starts school anyways. [00:47:48] Speaker B: Is she starting this fall? Yep. So her and Morris will be in the same class. Noise, noise. [00:47:55] Speaker A: Yeah, that's the plan, at least, is. [00:47:59] Speaker B: To get her in school. Both of mine are starting this fall. [00:48:03] Speaker A: It's exciting. Sure you're not excited? [00:48:07] Speaker B: No, not at all. [00:48:08] Speaker A: Why? [00:48:12] Speaker B: I don't know. [00:48:15] Speaker A: I don't know. I'm sad to see my baby go to school. [00:48:21] Speaker B: Right. [00:48:22] Speaker A: So I keep telling Daniel we should make another one. [00:48:26] Speaker B: That is a terrible idea. [00:48:27] Speaker A: It is such a bad idea. [00:48:29] Speaker B: I do not recommend. [00:48:30] Speaker A: Daniel will not. He will not go with it. And that's fine. I have come to the conclusion that we're done having kids. Like, I know. I know in my heart that we're done, and that's fine, but. [00:48:44] Speaker B: Too bad. [00:48:45] Speaker A: No, it definitely wouldn't. But it's sad knowing that you're closing a chapter, right. That I'm never going. And even though I knew Hazel was going to be our last baby when I was pregnant with her, I knew. [00:48:58] Speaker B: Right. [00:48:59] Speaker A: That was something that we had discussed. Know, just something crazy happens. But that's something that we had discussed. I would just wish that I would have cherished it more. [00:49:07] Speaker B: Right. Yeah. That is a tough chapter to go through. [00:49:15] Speaker A: Because I loved being pregnant. I absolutely loved it. And I did. And me. And I've talked about becoming a surrogate, because I genuinely loved being pregnant. [00:49:26] Speaker B: I didn't mind it. I got morning sickness at the beginning a little bit. But besides that, I had no issues. Well, like, I did, but no real issues. And I thought about it, but Stephen told me that I'm too emotional, so it's not an option for me. I would like that paycheck. I think Stephen would too. [00:49:50] Speaker A: I think I would like. I don't know. I think there's just something about a life growing inside of you. I don't know. I miss the baby kicks and the stuff like that. And even me and Daniel have talked about this a lot. I would want to be in a better place mentally, because I don't think that I could give up a baby. [00:50:23] Speaker B: Right. Even if going through the whole entire thing, you knew it wasn't biologically, biologically yours, it would still be very hard. And that's what I have thought about, too. And I feel like right now, I'm at the best mental state that I've ever been. And after I had two kids back to back, and before that, I had two miscarriages back to back. So my hormones weren't good, right. For LiKe four years. Like, the one year that I had the two miscarriages, and then piper and then morris, and then BREAStfeeding, completion with morris, LiKe four years, they are just now leveled back out. Like this last summer, they finally leveled back out. And this is the best that I have felt right forever. So I think I totally could do it, but I would be scared that I would have issues with it afterwards. But then again, you see so many of them, after having the baby and giving it to the family, they become a milk donor. And they pump and donate breast milk to either the baby that they grew or to other families, or to the, you know, that kind of stuff. And I think I would really like that side of it, because I loved breastfeeding, I loved. With my. With Piper, I was a little bit of a low supplier, but with Morris, I was an overproducer. And they say it just keeps getting, like, with your next pregnancy and the next one after that kind of stuff. So that would be something I would look forward to, is being able to do that. [00:52:18] Speaker A: Right? [00:52:19] Speaker B: So I think I'd do it, but. [00:52:24] Speaker A: I don't know. I feel like I still go back and forth a lot with either wanting another baby or not. I already know how Daniel feels, so I would never be like, we have to have a baby to stay like that. [00:52:37] Speaker B: SHit's CRAZY to me. [00:52:39] Speaker A: The fact that people do, you know, if we did have a surprise baby, something like that, I don't think it would hurt my feelings. I think right now would be like if we were to get pregnant. If we got pregnant right now, I'd be really upset. So I just bought a Wedding dress, rigHt? And I'd probably throw up a little bit. So we're not doing, however, like, if we were to get pregnant this year after our wedding, which, knock on wood, that doesn't happen. We are in the best place that we have ever been. [00:53:28] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:53:30] Speaker A: Like, Daniel and I's relationship has gone through hell and back. We are in our own house. We are financially stable at this point. [00:53:38] Speaker B: You guys are a really good point right now, in your life, in your. [00:53:41] Speaker A: Relationship, in your family, babies change everything. But this would be the best time if we were to have a baby. To have a baby. And I wish that we would have been in this spot when we had our other two. [00:53:58] Speaker B: Right. [00:53:59] Speaker A: Because we weren't. Not even a little bit. [00:54:01] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:54:04] Speaker A: But at the same time, I'm very. What's the word I'm looking for? It starts with a c. Content. I'm very content with how your life is. Right. With how we are. We have three daughters. The thing that I just can't stop thinking about is the way that our kids'birthdays fall so good that bringing in another baby would fuck that up. [00:54:33] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:54:33] Speaker A: Because we have Hazel's in March. 4 months later is harper in July. 4 months later is Hadley in November. And four months later we're back to march. [00:54:45] Speaker B: Exactly. [00:54:46] Speaker A: So the way that we have it is very good. Our kids are great and amazing. And I couldn't ask for better, even though they drive me insane. We are very lucky. And I think that instead of putting time and effort towards a baby, which we're not doing, but I have to keep reminding myself that even though I do get baby fever sometimes, and I'm like, having another baby would be so, like, do I really want to go through all of that all over again? [00:55:24] Speaker B: See, we've talked about it. Stephen and I talked about it back when we were planning on building a new house, a bigger house we wanted to foster. And that was something that we discussed in depth, like what ages we would want. And I was like, honestly, I would take the baby stage. [00:55:48] Speaker A: A lot of people want the babies, you know what I mean? [00:55:52] Speaker B: And my reasons were very selfish and very. I don't know, not necessarily bad, but I feel like they were a little bad, because my reasoning was, they haven't been tampered yet. They haven't been messed up yet. They are the purest form of a child you will ever get. I don't care what their genetics are, right? They are the purest form you will ever get. And that's what I wanted. [00:56:23] Speaker A: I'm on the absolute opposite end of you. [00:56:25] Speaker B: Steven wanted kids around Remy's age. So at the time, Remy was, like, ten. So a couple of years ago is when we talked about this. He wanted kids around Remy's age. And I'm like, I would be okay with that, too. [00:56:40] Speaker A: Right? [00:56:41] Speaker B: Because those are the kids that not many people want. They're the ones that are the most difficult. And that's what we wanted. That's what we decided that we would be best with, was the preteen to teenage years. [00:57:00] Speaker A: Okay. [00:57:00] Speaker B: Yeah. [00:57:01] Speaker A: Well, we're going to take a pause on that really quick, because I'm going to tell you what. Okay, what? And me and Daniel have talked about this before because we did talk about fostering, because it is our plan one day to put a house here. I want to foster teen moms. [00:57:27] Speaker B: Yes. And we've talked about this before. Not on podcast, but yes, we have. [00:57:32] Speaker A: Talked about this before because, yes, they're the ones that come with the most baggage, but they're the ones that also need the most love and the most support. [00:57:43] Speaker B: Yes. [00:57:44] Speaker A: And I feel like also, I don't want their children to be taken away from them. [00:57:54] Speaker B: Right. [00:57:57] Speaker A: I think that they were put in a shitty situation no matter what. That a lot of foster children who are teen parents have been in the foster system for a long fucking time. And I feel like if they can end their foster journey in a place where they're truly loved, I think that will do something for them for the rest of their life. [00:58:25] Speaker B: There are a lot of families that foster the teen moms or the teens that are either just pregnant or the teens that do have children. Maybe with them already, there are high chances that you will end up with a child and grandchild for life, right. Whenever they come into your home, if you give them the proper care and love, right. There are high chances that you will have them forever. [00:59:05] Speaker A: And I want them to succeed. I want them to know that, because everybody deserves a chance. And not a lot of people think that, and this is a true statement. Not a lot of people think that teen moms at all are going to do anything with their life. [00:59:25] Speaker B: High chance for success. [00:59:28] Speaker A: And I find that absolutely disgusting. [00:59:30] Speaker B: It is. [00:59:32] Speaker A: Being a teen mom myself, I find that shit very fucking disgusting that people think those things. I just think that there are too many foster kids in this world. [00:59:49] Speaker B: There are. There really are. If you look at the statistics and the numbers, there are ways, I don't know, put there by choice, by the parents choice or not. Like whether they are orphaned and have no family or their family. The parents weren't able or didn't want them. There are way too many kids out there like that. [01:00:19] Speaker A: Right. I think the thing that also makes me the most sad is that you have these kids going into foster care and they were more neglected in foster care than they ever were with their own parents. [01:00:29] Speaker B: And that is something that is horrible. [01:00:34] Speaker A: To even think about right now. Obviously, we can't. We can't accommodate any more kids in our house, but I think us have. [01:00:44] Speaker B: The capacity for any more children. [01:00:47] Speaker A: But I think that more people. [01:00:49] Speaker B: I agree. [01:00:50] Speaker A: Do I think that's. Do I think that everybody needs to be a foster parent? Absolutely not. Not everybody is capable of doing that. And I 1000% fully understand that. I do think that if you're thinking about it, to look into it a. [01:01:15] Speaker B: Little, they do classes a couple of times a year, and not even classes, but like introduction events where you can go and learn more about them, learn more about the fostering system. And there are options if you don't want to jump in, do the classes and do all of that. You can do a few classes and be a certified. Practically what it is is a certified foster babysitter. So, like, if the family that is fostering a child or children has to either go out of town for a weekend or a week, they have a family emergency and they have to leave, you are a designated certified person that can babysit for them while they're gone. [01:02:08] Speaker A: Right. [01:02:09] Speaker B: And there are ways to do that without being completely foster certified in the classes. And you're just like a babysitter for the families that foster. [01:02:22] Speaker A: Right. [01:02:23] Speaker B: So if that is something that you are interested in. You don't have to jump all the way in and become a foster family. You can start out slow and see if you like it. [01:02:37] Speaker A: One of these days we'll get there, just not anytime soon. We're unfortunately not in the spot right now where we can put a new house on this land. [01:02:49] Speaker B: Yeah, and our house is too small, so. Yeah, not ready for that. [01:02:53] Speaker A: Well, mamas, this was actually a really good episode, but it. I'm going to go make some hawaiian rolls. [01:03:00] Speaker B: Sounds delicious. [01:03:02] Speaker A: I'm excited. My first time trying them. So I'll let you know how it turns out. Till next week. Bye.